During a psychology class in law school (strange
combination, I realize), my professor presented a study relating to happiness. She
noted that as humans we have a natural happiness "set-point," meaning
that while we experience temporary dips and boosts in happiness levels after
certain events (job promotion, marriage, divorce), we naturally return to this
set point after a surprising short period of time. At the same time, there are
three things that have been found to cause a permanent decrease in happiness:
death of a spouse, being fired from a job (even after obtaining a new job), and
chronic pain. At the time, this meant little to me as I had never experienced
any of those events.
Everything has changed. Chronic pain is a mentally
exhausting and at times crippling experience. Yes, is it difficult to not be
able to do the active things I love to do, but it is so much harder to not be
able to escape the constant pain. When trying to explain this to someone, I
often say that pain is the first thing I think of when I wake up in the morning
and the last thing to cross my mind before the sweet freedom of sleep. For
those 16 waking hours, I cannot go more than five minutes without thinking
about the pain in my foot. Honestly, I cannot remember what I spent my time
thinking about before my injury.
The mental effect of this pain is outstanding. I would have
never guessed that pain could lead to such sadness and depressive thoughts. I
often catch myself falling into the spiral of thinking of things that I would
happily give up in exchange for a pain free life. This can also lead to a
dangerous path of attempting to "barter" with God for relief.
There is only one thing that I have found to help with the
mental anguish of chronic pain and that is to stay as connected as possible
with my family and friends. Relationships and social activities provide an
invaluable distraction from the pain. At the same time, it is sometimes
incredibly difficult to make myself get out of the house to do these same
activities that I know will improve my mood. Sometimes, I am just too overwhelmed
with the thought of having to walk from the parking spot to the restaurant. But
afterwards, I am always a happier person and have learned to just force myself
to get out there.